On the day before….

my birthday…I had a fantastic time with Shannon and the kids. I got stuck into writing a fun article on our blog that Shannon edited for me later on while I was at work. After some trepidation on the topic I took off and pecked out a good post in short order.  From there we managed to get out of the house and go down to Okeeheelee Park for a little adventure.

We rented a canoe, threw John and Julia in the middle and paddled all over the place for an hour. Julia was a little uncertain about the boat but she didn’t complain. John was right into it after just a couple of minutes. He called the buoy’s what sounded like bootie, which gave us quite the chuckle.  After that we were inspired to make an impromptu run down to the Publix to get some supplies for a quick Bar-b-q. We got back to the park and grilled up some chicken and burgers and downed a couple of Peroni’s – much to our delight. The kids had a blast feeding the seagulls and we all felt so glad to have spent such a nice time together.  Today was the kind of day you fantasize about all the time when the mood is high, the company is great, the sun is warm and your belly full. Cheers!

Five Years Beautiful

Five years ago I met Shannon Marie Seery. Life since that time has been adventure, risk, reward, failure and never ending love. Despite how hard it has been to have step families and move across the country (for both of us) I do believe we’ve all done our very best and have been so very fortunate despite the setbacks.

We celebrated on Tuesday the 17th of January by going to Gaucho RodizioGaucho Rodizio in Lighthouse Point that Jenna got us a gift certificate too. We didn’t notice the infinity like shape in their logo until we arrived. It was a Brazilian steakhouse – the kind where they bring around spits of meat and they slice a piece off at your table. You have a disc on your table that you turn to green for more service and flip over to red when you need to take a break. We had such a nice time sharing our meal together and talking about the last five years. We spoke of our gains and losses but it was all fondness and love that we felt. We have come through the other side – we have worked for it but we knew it was worth it. We have two beautiful children, a business that I believe is set to take off this year and most importantly our health and happiness and love.

Shannon and Julian

I would love to see us spend some time like we did towards the beginning of our relationship where we spent more time in hotels, bars, hanging out and otherwise ignoring the world. That was good – very good and I believe, repeatable.I love you Shannon. I know this little comment isn’t reflective of the depth of feelings I have for you, but it is a testament none the less.

We were so happy to see our check come up 8’s and 13’s when we finished our wonderful meal. The time on the ticker read 8:08PM and the total was $113.58!.

You are a beautiful, intelligent and kind hearted women with an amazing ability to make me feel more happiness than I have ever felt before. You are a great drunk, you’re great sober, you’re great mad and happy and excited, you taught me to love roller coasters and to let the house be dirty in favor of experiencing people and places. You are grounded but don’t lack the ability to dream and despite that you are no where near as crazy as I am you never judge me harshly for it. Thanks for an amazing five years and I do pray that there will be so many more adventures of Shannon and Julian, side by side, riding off in to the sunset with kids in tow, roadies in the console, our sticks in the back of the truck and the warm sun whipping the hair around our panoramic grins.

My Xmas Pressie really delivered

Shannon got me a round of golf at Palm Beach Gardens golf course for Christmas and today I got to unwrap my gift. I had the day off, the weather was perfect and we had an absolutely fabulous time. It was one of those days where you feel the rays of sun on your face and it makes you feel so happy. The grass was green, the swamp was swampy, and the balls flew all over the place. They even went in the hole on occasion just the way they are supposed to (we both hit our usually horrid and wonderful shots). Shan even got to hit a ball about 5 yards away from one of their Gators. She admitted to being a little nervous but I reckon the Gator was more concerned with the humanoid with a club.

Our wedding

Shannon M. Seery and Julian E. Gude were married Saturday, September 27th in NYC. Although our love and commitment to each other has been complete since the moment that we met almost three years ago we never did take care of the marriage part. OK, so no one ever accused us of being highly conventional. We had the opportunity to tie the knot before the birth of John but frankly neither of us wanted that to be the final motivation for us to marry (not that there’s anything wrong with that).

What – no big wedding you say! Well, we’re actually going to have two weddings. The service on September 27th was the first service and was just for the two of us. We were married in our favorite hotel in New York – The Royalton. Due to everyone being scattered around the U.S. and the world we figured you could use some time (we certainly do) to put the resources together to attend our second wedding affectionately known as BPIW (big party Island wedding). So, the BPIW will take place next year on an Island somewhere off the coast of Florida (probably the Bahamas since they’re close). We want all of our family to attend!

In the end it was a recent plane ride to San Jose that kicked me in the pants about doing this. There I was flying along when I had one of those moments where I wondered if my particular plane, at that particular moment might just fall out of the sky. Those thoughts led to how much I would miss this wonderful life and all the unbelievably great people I know and love. It’s moments like these that cause us to take stock of our lives and evaluate the things still left to be done. What I determined in those moments is that I didn’t want to go through any more of this life without proclaiming my love for Shannon in this manner – so marriage it is!

Remember, BPIW to follow.

P.S. Since people always ask these questions:
1) I proposed under a moonlit sky on Palm Beach without a soul around
2) I think it was Shannon that said yes but it was kinda dark.
3) No, she’s not changing her name but WE both are. We figured if Seery Gude was a good enough name for our son John that we would both take the name as well.
4) Don’t feel obligated to send anything to us other than well wishes because if you are so inclined we’re going to do that kinda stuff next year.

More about the service
We were married some time around 8:30 in the evening on Saturday, September 27th, 2003 in our suite at the Royalton Hotel at 44 W. 44th Street in Mid town Manhattan. The Royalton is the first hotel that Shannon and I met at after our original meeting in Phoenix in January 2001. We also went their last Valentine’s Day. We stay each time in the same room (1505) and did so this time on our first night there (Friday, September 26th).

Shannon and I both loved the service and Reverend Laura did a really good job of incorporating our vows and beliefs in the wedding. Her husband was there as a witness and also took pictures of the service for us with our digital camera. Even though Rev. Laura has been marrying people a long time this was the first marriage that her husband was ever a witness for which surprised me. I am very happy that Shannon and I are married now – it feels like the right thing for our life.

Our Wedding Vows

September 27, 2003

The Royalton
The Royalton Hotel at 44 West 44th Street in New York City
44 WEST 44 STREET NEW YORK CITY NY 10036

WEDDING OF JULIAN EDWARD GUDE & SHANNON MARIE SEERY

“Julian, you are your own person. I do not have the right to bind you to your bride. Only you have this right. If it is your wish, then take this ring; put it in Shannon’s hand and say, “It is my wish”.

“Shannon, you are your own person. I do not have the right to bind you to your groom. Only you have this right. If it is your wish, then take this ring; put it in Julian’s hand and say, “It is my wish”.

I, Julian Edward Gude take you Shannon Marie Seery, to be my wife, my partner in life and my one true love.
I will cherish you and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.
I will trust you and honor you.
I will laugh with you and cry with you.
I will love you faithfully.
What may come I will always be there.
As I have given you my hand to hold.
So I give you my life to keep.
For life is short but sweet for certain,
so shall we live each moment as it were our last together.
For where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay.
And where you die, I will die and there I will be buried.
And when we are but ashes may our love rise up like a Phoenix and fly away together.
For not even death can part you from me.

Then you will place the ring on Shannon’s finger.

I, Shannon Marie Seery take you Julian Edward Gude, to be my husband, my partner in life and my one true love.
I will cherish you and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.
I will trust you and honor you.
I will laugh with you and cry with you.
I will love you faithfully.
What may come I will always be there.
As I have given you my hand to hold.
So I give you my life to keep.
For life is short but sweet for certain,
so shall we live each moment as it were our last together.
For where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay.
And where you die, I will die and there I will be buried.
And when we are but ashes may our love rise up like a Phoenix and fly away together.
For not even death can part you from me.

Then you will place the ring on Julian’s finger.

As we light the candles, Rev Laura will read:
“Infinity” to your relationship means that your love is connected through time. This journey that you are embarking on today began on an earlier day and will not end in this lifetime. You dream that you will discover each other again and again in this life time and in lives to come.

The Royalton Hotel at 44 West 44th Street in New York City
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